May 14, 2018 at 12:24 pm #164
The strong-willed person is persistent, resolute and firm. These are the characteristics of successful people, high-class athletes and leaders. If you want to become mentally stable, to cope with any difficulties and go to any goals, you can form these qualities and become a strong-willed person.
Conduct a SWOT analysis. This is a process of enumerating your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. It is very difficult to gain confidence in your abilities, if you do not know about your strengths and weaknesses.
Divide the piece of paper into four pieces. Focus on your strengths and weaknesses, highlight at least 10 strengths.
Opportunities and threats may concern psychological, professional aspects or the style of your life. Often they are the result of the interaction of your strengths and weaknesses with the environment. You will learn how to manage threats and opportunities in the next section.
This is an important part of self-discovery. Understand that this is a standard block that secures your goals, by realizing your best qualities.
Positively think. Develop a strategy for how you can use your strengths to achieve new opportunities. The anticipation of a positive result contributes to the fulfillment of any task and helps to become self-reliant.
Define small goals for the week, month, year. You will become more confident in yourself, increasing self-efficacy and self-esteem. As you accomplish the intermediate goals, you will see what an indispensable person you are.
Do not compare yourself with the rest. Volitional people – self-confident and resilient, no matter how other people are successful. If you are going to make a comparison, take the goals that you set for yourself and fulfilled in order to feel how much you have improved.
Although strong-willed people often compete in, for example, trade, sports, politics and academia, they benefit from the ability to withstand the competitive pressure of the past.
Know your feelings. Take the habit of asking yourself how you feel about anything. Your first reaction may not reflect real feelings.
Accept your feelings. Realize them and move on, so you can solve the problem. If you hide your feelings, it will be much harder for you to face the problem, keeping the mind firm.
Stay in a sober mind, getting into difficult situations. When bad things happen, the mind can decide that this is the “worst” scenario. However, if you consider it only as a small step towards the goal, you can stop making an elephant out of the fly.
Understand that mistakes and changes are an important part of your life. They will guide you to, perhaps, the best way possible. Set the goal to solve problems before, and not postpone them for later.
Avoid perfectionism. Volitional people should not solve all problems in the world, but move forward through them for a specific purpose.
Be an optimist. Consider “problems” as “opportunities.” Look at each situation as an opportunity to change something for the better.
Be action-oriented. Adopt the problem-solving approach, trying to move forward, not stay in place. You must have courage to keep moving forward.
In some cases, courage simply does not allow you to get away from problems.
Look at the list of weaknesses that you made in the SWOT analysis. Understand whether they are the cause of the lack of willpower. If you include laziness, procrastination or bad habits in the list, you can cope with them, developing self-discipline and will power.
Start playing sports. Doing sports at an early age is a good way to discipline yourself. Sign up for a sporting event or join a club to get yourself engaged a few days a week.
Develop useful habits. Doing something every day, despite the fact that it is not so pleasant as indulging bad habits, you create an association of will power with a reward. Here are a few habits that you can start with:
Go up the stairs, not on the elevator every day. Following this habit, you will realize that laziness loses power over you.
Wash dishes immediately after eating or during cooking. The dishes are easier to clean when the food has not dried on its surface. Many problems are also easier to solve here and now, rather than wait until they become more serious.
Eat healthy breakfasts, not sugar donuts, flakes or cakes. The decisions you make at the beginning of the day set the tone for all decisions that you will take later.
Get rid of bad habits. After you understand how good habits are formed, you will be able to apply more willpower, fighting more confidently. Try to get rid of one problem that requires a lot of will power, for example, from smoking, dependence on sugar, abuse of TV or the Internet or the use of fast food.
Give yourself an acceptable amount of time to complete the task. For example, about 1-3 months.
Do things that you do not like first. Make a list of the necessary cases and try to fulfill those points that you most fear. This self-discipline exercise can strengthen your will and brighten up your day.
Set long-term objectives. After gaining confidence, emotional stability and willpower, you need to determine the list of goals that you want to achieve.
Some believe that long-term goals are the key to decisiveness. If you have set reasonable tasks regarding retirement, work, family relationships, health and spiritual fitness, you will find that you have become more determined and persistent.
Break long-term tasks into short-term ones. Set goals for the week, month, year.
Make sure that your goals are “human”. If one person is unable to achieve these goals, they are not reasonable. Goals should be rational, or you can not believe that you will ever reach them.
Think not only about specific goals, but also about the moral and spiritual. Identify the circle of people for which you will be ready to live. You will gain greater confidence in decision-making if you can adhere to the “code”.
Be careful, determination and stubbornness sometimes go hand in hand. It is important to be able to make mistakes and realize that sometimes you can be wrong not to become capricious and stubborn.
Good luck to you!
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