Everyone knows the saying: “If you want to make God laugh – tell him about your plans”. Do you know such a situation when, with carefully thought out prospects, your plans crumble for unknown reasons? Or an unknown force tells a person to abandon the intended one. It turns out that even in the last century, many researchers drew attention to this phenomenon.
It seems, why not tell friends and relatives that you, for example, decided to buy a car, go abroad or launch a new project? Moreover, they can always provide moral support. But back in 1933, psychologists determined that the fewer people will know about our plans, the higher the probability that they will be realized.
Why is this so?
The fact is that when we tell in advance about our intentions, in our subconscious this task becomes fulfilled. And if the goal has already been achieved, then the aspiration of a person decreases.
In 1982, Professor of Psychology at New York University Peter Holvitzer described this problem in his book “Symbolic self-filling.” In his research, 63 people took part. It turned out that people who did not talk about their plans to others, performed them more likely than those who publicly talked about them and received the support and approval of others.
Professor Holvitzer came to the conclusion that when we share our intentions, you achieve a “premature feeling of completion.” In our subconsciousness there are so-called symbols of identity that help us to get an idea of ??ourselves. For such a symbol to arise, it is enough not only actions, but also simple conversations about them. Let’s say you told about your plan to write a scientific paper and presented yourself as a doctor of science. The brain was satisfied with this game of imagination, and you have lost the motivation to take steps to achieve this goal – go to graduate school, look for a supervisor, sit in the library, collecting material, and so on.